{"id":33628,"date":"2018-02-02T20:54:15","date_gmt":"2018-02-02T12:54:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/aranzazushrine.ph\/home\/?p=33628"},"modified":"2018-02-02T21:00:39","modified_gmt":"2018-02-02T13:00:39","slug":"6-good-reasonsahmm-excuses-for-why-we-gossip","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aranzazushrine.ph\/index.php\/2018\/02\/02\/6-good-reasonsahmm-excuses-for-why-we-gossip\/","title":{"rendered":"6 good reasons\u2026ahmm, excuses for why we gossip"},"content":{"rendered":"[et_pb_section bb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_image show_in_lightbox=&#8221;off&#8221; url_new_window=&#8221;off&#8221; use_overlay=&#8221;off&#8221; animation=&#8221;off&#8221; sticky=&#8221;off&#8221; align=&#8221;left&#8221; force_fullwidth=&#8221;on&#8221; always_center_on_mobile=&#8221;on&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;3.0.98&#8243; src=&#8221;http:\/\/aranzazushrine.ph\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/article_gossip.jpg&#8221; show_bottom_space=&#8221;on&#8221; \/][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Image Caption&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; text_font=&#8221;Arial||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;12&#8243; text_line_height=&#8221;1.3em&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||30px|&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; \/][et_pb_text background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;3.0.98&#8243;]\n<h4><strong>Why do we gossip?<\/strong><\/h4>\n<ol>\n<li>\u201cBecause we have nothing better to do, to make time pass.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI think to feel better about ourselves and to attach ourselves to the people that we\u2019re gossiping about, and to connect.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cWe want to compare our own to theirs. We want to see that they\u2019re just as fallible as we are, that they make just as many mistakes.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cMost likely because it\u2019s kind of fun and it\u2019s kind of interesting, and it plays to that low pot of everybody\u2026it\u2019s the one time we get to forget about our own flaws and focus on other people\u2019s.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cIt makes people feel better to talk about other people\u2019s damage and brokenness.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cIt seems inbuilt in human nature. I suppose the person who is gossiping gets a certain sort of satisfaction out of what they\u2019re saying, even though it may not be very pleasant or very nice, it may be harmful.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/6WQx3ePgHuQ?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Gossip. It happens every day, we all do it, and we are all affected by it. The answers given by the people in this video perhaps reflect what we ourselves might feel, and reasons we too have for talking about others, even if we don\u2019t intend anything malicious by doing so. However, no matter our reasons, gossip hurts, and although it might appear to be a small fault that won\u2019t cause any serious, lasting damage to anyone, it is one of the topics Pope Francis has dedicated many speeches eversince his pontificate 4 years ago.<\/p>\n<p>In a Sept. 14, 2013 homily, the pontiff spoke of Christian murder, saying that it\u2019s the Lord who talks about \u201cChristian murderers\u201d in scripture and \u201cthere is no place for nuances.\u00a0<strong>If you speak ill of your brother, you kill your brother<\/strong>. And every time we do this, we are imitating that gesture of Cain, the first murderer in History.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGossip always has a criminal side to it,\u201d he cautioned, \u201c<strong>There is no such thing as innocent gossip<\/strong>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A few days after Valentines Day last Feb. 16, 2014 the pontiff spoke about gossip again, saying that \u201cIt\u2019s so rotten, gossip.\u00a0<strong>At the beginning, it seems to be something enjoyable and fun, like a piece of candy. But at the end, it fills the heart with bitterness and also poisons us<\/strong>\u2026I am convinced that if each one of us would purposely avoid gossip, at the end, we would become a saint! It\u2019s a beautiful path!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cDo we want to become saints? Yes or no?\u201d he asked the crowds that day, who met his question with a resounding \u201cyes!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYes? Do we want to live attached to gossip as a habit? Yes or no? No? Ok, so we are in agreement! No gossip!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And these are only a few examples of the Pope\u2019s words \u2013 he has in fact dedicated at least two or three other speeches and homilies to the topic, including a speech to seminarians earlier this summer stating that gossip is not just something ascribed to women, as can often be thought, but it\u2019s something that everyone does and it has the power to destroy communities.<\/p>\n<p>But does the Pope really mean this? That gossiping kills my brother, and is an act of \u201cChristian murder?\u201d Does he really mean to say that we are doing something as serious as imitating Cain\u2019s act of hatred in killing his brother Abel?<\/p>\n<p>When we look to the 10 commandments, we find that to gossip, to speak ill of our brothers and sisters in Christ, in fact falls underneath the premise of the 5th commandment of \u201cDo not kill,\u201d because so often we \u201ckill\u201d or damage the reputation of another when we do it, and many times in ways that are irreparable, like the man in the video who said that a friendship was ruined due to a letter he had read in which his friend wrote things about him that were blatantly uncharitable and perhaps untrue.<\/p>\n<p>What we need to do then, is to\u00a0<strong>recover a sense of mercy<\/strong>; a fraternal understanding that the person standing next to me is a human being whose dignity extends beyond whatever immediate judgments we might make or whichever opinions we might hold. And this begins with small, simple, daily acts of love, humility, meekness, docility to the Holy Spirit and generosity toward others.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/QFbnJI9KVOk?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4><strong>Thinking like an Apostle:<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>An activity to do with youth could be to have them think of a time when they gossiped about someone else, and a time when they themselves were affected by gossip, and write down a concrete, realistic solution for that week to not do it, or at least to be more aware of when they do it.<\/p>\n<p>A seemingly passive solution can be the most active one, whether it be to change the subject when a friend is talking about someone else, or to hold one\u2019s own tongue or say something positive when tempted to speak bad about someone else. 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